Since the week prior to Valentine’s Day, I have been writing, talking, and thinking about love. I composed messages that I intended on sharing with all of you that I considered too philosophical, too long, or not appropriate for right now. Prior to last year, I would have been extremely frustrated for not delivering a message on this special holiday, but I have come to realize that all of us are EXACTLY where we should be in each moment. For example, my frustration for not broadcasting a message to all of you would have been a useless emotion that occupied “rent-free” space in my mind. So instead, I accepted what was and decided to allow the “right” message to evolve naturally. And after some introspection, I began to think about love in an entirely different light.
My entire life, I have been told by a variety of people that “love is hard work,” and as a result, I have adopted this perspective as part of my conditioned belief system. I am sure that I am not alone with this misconception. Often this philosophy has been engrained in many of our minds and manifests in our relationships in which LOVE becomes difficult, challenging, and hard work. But with this being said, I have made the choice to begin THINKING for myself; as opposed to what society and my surrounding world has attempted to bestow upon me, and change my philosophy that love is not hard work at all. This has nothing to do with semantics because the words we associate with the relationships, emotions, and choices that we make in our lives will ultimately manifest in all of our circumstances. Thus, if you say love is hard, then you better believe that LOVE will be hard. If you say that your job is impossible, then your job will be impossible. And if you say that you will never lose 15lbs, then NOTHING will allow you to lose weight. Our context is decisive, so choose your words wisely.
Now back to love, because what I have discovered is that love does not require hard work or even work at all, but rather an extreme sense of consciousness and the magnitude of your consciousness will dictate the intensity of your love. When I say an extreme sense of consciousness, it is not solely based on the quantity of time that you spend thinking about the other person. Instead, I am referring to achieving a level of awareness in which you understand your partner in a way that you actually reach the core of their existence. This deals with recognizing what they are thinking before they even say it, understanding their feelings before they are made known, and exceeding their desires when they are not even realized. Love is the being, thinking, and doing just because…When you achieve an extreme sense of consciousness for the love that you share with you partner, you experience unconditional joy regardless of the external circumstances in your lives. However, I want to emphasize that the intensity of your love must be based on the extreme level of consciousness that BOTH of you share in the relationship and with yourself.
With this being said, there are times when a relationship culminates and both partners go their separate ways and wonder, “What did I do wrong in this relationship…? I need closure.” WHAT DOES THIS MEAN!?!?!??! First and foremost, there are no right or wrongs in life or love. Everything is what it is and therefore, nothing was done wrong, and nothing was done right, because everything was just done. I believe that closure is a limitation that your mind has set so that you can protect yourself from moving forward and opening yourself up to what is truly possible. I must admit that for 48 hours after the culmination of my most recent relationship, I kept on repeating the quote from above, and guess what…MY WORDS WERE DECISIVE and I was unable to move on. It wasn’t until the 48th hour hit, that I chose to express a different statement, “Nothing was wrong, nothing was right, everything was how it was.” This shifted my perspective and it permitted me to realize that closure was simply a self-limiting belief because I was afraid to move on, but since that 48th hour, I made the choice to have closure.
What it comes down to is this, there is only ONE emotion that still exists which is completely natural and organic which is why it is profound and beautiful. This emotion is LOVE, and until the pharmaceutical industry decides to create a pill which prevents the onset of falling out of love or finding love, this will remain the case. There are pills to “cure” unhappiness, there are pills to “cure” loneliness, and there are pills to “cure” unhealthiness, but there are NO PILLS FOR LOVE because that is something which is unique to YOU! Therefore, the challenge for you is to accept the fact that LOVE is real. It is something that is born inside all off us, and it is the only “thing” which feels just as good to give as it does to receive. Love is at the foundation of our lives and if for some reason this emotion is not present for you, then I would like you to answer this question, “What beliefs do I have around the emotion of love which are preventing it from entering my life?” Maybe they focused on the concept of love being hard work, or needing closure, or whatever else you repeat to yourself on a regular basis. The choice is yours as to whether or not you allow this blog post to anchor a new conditioned experience in which a new conversation evolves, as your new context will manifest. Therefore, please remember that love requires an extreme sense of consciousness and the magnitude of your consciousness will dictate the intensity of your love.
What does this mean to you? Please leave a comment.
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