3 - 2 -1… ASK AWAY!
“If you are afraid to ask for what you want, then you better get comfortable with having less than you desire.”
- Jared Yellin
How does this land?!?!
When I first thought of this bold statement...it shook me!
If you are afraid to ask for what you want, then you better get comfortable with having less than you desire.
For years, I struggled with asking for what I wanted…
What if they say no?
What if they think I am greedy?
What if they think I have an ulterior motive?
What if they think I am self-centered?
It’s better to just not ask… (feel the sarcasm)
OR...is it?!
What I realized is that when I DON’T ASK it then prevents the other person from feeling like they have the permission TO ASK and as a result - neither party gets what they want.
But it goes deeper…
When I have an ASK it is a guaranteed WIN-WIN (which I am assuming is the case for you too...like always!) so if I don’t ASK for what I want, then by default the other person does not get what they NEED!
Read this again…
When I lack the courage to ASK FOR WHAT I WANT…
The other person does not get what they NEED!
Because when I ASK, it’s because I know they need to say YES because they NEED what I am asking for!
Yes this is a mouthful, but it’s also an EASY concept to understand - yet - challenging to implement...UNTIL NOW!
Here’s what you need to know…
Your ASK is life or death…
WOAHHHH…
But I mean it…
Let’s use a CHIROPRACTOR as an example…
If a chiropractor does not have the courage to ASK for what they want - which is the potential patient to become an actual patient - then the person might not become a patient and they will suffer ALL BECAUSE the chiropractor did not have the courage to ASK for what they wanted…
And the same holds true for you…
Whether you are in real estate…
Functional Medicine…
Dentistry…
Veterinary…
Coaching…
Finance…
Yoga…
Training…
Insurance…
If you don’t ASK, you are not giving the person a chance to say YES!
And how selfish is it to have your lack of courage hold you back from giving someone the opportunity to SAY YES to YOU which will exponentially change their lives…
So, here’s the trick…
Speak your truth…
YES, it’s that simple!
When I used to struggle ASKING for what I wanted, my solution - which I guarantee will work for you too - was to tell people the following…
“I really struggle with ASKING for what I want, so if you don’t mind, I am going to practice right now because what I want most is what’s best for you which is _________________________(insert your offer) and I am going to ASK you right here and right now to say YES because I also know that what I am offering is the answer to your challenge. So, when can we begin?”
The KEY…
ONLY USE THIS IF SOMEONE IS BETTER WITH YOU THAN WITHOUT YOU…
And guess what…
People almost ALWAYS said yes…
And now…
I have ZERO issues asking for what I want because I have conditioned myself to realize that MY ASK is ALWAYS what’s best for them…
Now it’s your turn…
Who is willing to ASK for what they want within the next hour?
ASK for the business…
ASK for the love…
ASK for the raise…
ASK ASK ASK…
And I promise you this…
No one will say NO if they are better with you than without you…
No one will say you are greedy…
No one will think there is an ulterior motive…
And EVERYONE will appreciate your ASK!
Okay…
3 - 2 -1… ASK AWAY!
Live with Intention,
