“It’s time to allow people that love what you hate to do your hate for you.” - Jared Yellin
I am deep in the process of eliminating my hate right now and it’s liberating!
My Creative Catalyst and the Director of Marketing for CILA Labs, Tiffany S., said that her goal for me is that by March 1, 2021 the breakdown of my time is the following…
30% Creation
30% Speaking
40% Sales
All three of these responsibilities are my FLAME and what I have been able to almost completely eliminate is my hate also known as my wax which holds back my personal life and my companies as well.
AND everyone has their hate…
For me, it’s a VERY long list consisting of…
Taking notes
Assigning tasks in our project management software
The setup process for new companies
Physically signing bank documents
Training new hires on the specifics of their new job
Enforcing deadlines
Marketing implementation
Website copy
All financial management responsibilities
And this list goes on and on and on…
All of this is my WAX and my commitment to myself and to the team AND TO MY FAMILY is to ALWAYS remain in my FLAME.
But here’s the key…
“It’s time to allow people that love what you hate to do your hate for you.”
I think many people grapple with this - I know I did too- for two specific reasons...
#1 - They grapple with delegating their HATE because they don’t want someone else to HATE doing their HATE…
This is what I always thought…
Like who in the world would enjoy financial management…
I can’t even imagine anything more mundane than keeping track of bills, invoices, financial reports, etc.
I can’t even imagine delegating this hate to someone else because they will hate it too and then hate me…
I can’t even imagine continuing to be responsible for financial management because it’s just so draining for me…
These beliefs, and others, were rattling around my head until I met Tracey, my life and business manager.
Tracey LOVES my HATE!
She is in her FLAME when she is able to keep track of bills, invoices, and reports.
She is in her FLAME when she is able to take complete control of financial management.
She is in her FLAME when she is able to tell me that she finished a task.
How could I deprive her of her love when her love is my hate?!?!
And delegating your HATE is not just a business activity…
In my personal life, I hate to research things to do on the weekend, but guess what, my wife LOVES it so I delegated my hate to her because of her love and now we are both loving life!
The benefit of delegating your hate is that you are giving people the gift of doing their LOVE!
#2 They grapple with delegating their HATE because they are too afraid to let go of anything…
Listen, if your goal is to always NOT get what you want then it’s perfectly fine to hold on for dear life to your hate…
But if I had to guess - you WANT what you WANT which is why you must address the fear associated with deleting in all areas of your life, but specifically your hate.
The other day, someone asked me an interesting question…
“How do you do it?”
The IT he was referring to is the following…
Hired 200 people in our India Company and a 10+ in our US company.
Launched 22 tech companies
Launched an Angel Investor Network
Launched a Crowdfunding Platform
Launched The Idea Squad
Launched 15 Private Label Platforms at SYNDUIT
And I’m sure there is more…
My answer was simple…
I don’t do my hate and I trust that people will thrive in their LOVE!
This is truly my secret…
AND anyone can do it…
The reason why most small businesses remain small is because the owner does everything - including and predominantly their hate.
The reason why most people feel like they are making compromises in their life is because they are doing everything - including and predominantly their hate.
Please DON’T use the excuse that you don’t have the resources to delegate your HATE - I guarantee you do!
Barter if you need you…
If you LOVE sales and you HATE financial management, then find a business management firm and tell them you will sell for them for X hours a week if they do your financial management.
If you LOVE cooking but you HATE cleaning, then find a housekeeper to clean your home and in exchange you will cook them meals.
You can either make excuses OR get what you want, but I promise it’s impossible to achieve both…
The Fastest Way To NOT Get What You Want Is To Do Your Hate
I want to drill this point home for you because I am a living example of getting to the other side…
Like I started with…
I am in HATE delegation mode and EVERYONE around me is happier…
My hate is their love…
Their love is my hate…
WIN-WIN!!!
But I want to make sure you read this…
You can either make excuses OR get what you want, but I promise it’s impossible to achieve both...
Most people just make the excuse to NOT have the business, relationship, health, finances, etc. that they desire and if I had to guess…
At the root of all of this is you are doing too much of your HATE!
Like if you hate making green shakes, which means you don’t make green shakes, then just buy a green shake so you can be healthy.
And DON’T make the excuse that you don’t have the money.
And DON’T make the excuse that your spouse probably hates making it too.
Just find a way...
And if you don’t want to find a way OR you don’t believe this will work…
I am 100% okay with this…
But I do know it has worked and is working for me…
And I am NEXT LEVELING this now…
Anything that I HATE will be given as a gift to the people who LOVE my HATE…
And in the end…
EVERYONE will WIN!
Live with Intention,
