“Self-sabotage is when someone realizes that they are not worthy of the outcome they are experiencing so they do everything possible to ground their success into the misery they feel worthy of.” - Jared Yellin
I have a history of self-sabotage in my family and I have been privy to more cases than I can even recall and each time - I am fascinated!
Why do REALLY talented people implode?
Why do REALLY impactful people hate themselves?
Why do REALLY intelligent people doubt their abilities?
Why do REALLY successful people make really poor decisions?
I am not trying to over-generalize here because there are many talented, impactful, intelligent, and successful people who DON’T do any of the above, but unfortunately many do and it’s time to dig into WHY.
Each time I experience the self-sabotage I want to shake the person and let them know…
I see you…
I hear you…
What you say matters…
I want them to see what I see…
I want them to hear what I hear…
I want them to matter to themselves…
About a month ago, the world lost a brilliant mind in Tony Shieh, Founder of Zappos, and many mourned his death due to a house fire, but I know tons of people who really knew Tony and they said he suffered.
He suffered with self-worth…
He suffered with limiting beliefs…
He suffered with minimal, if any, self-love…
But WHY…
He had it all…
Success…
Intelligence…
Family…
Friends…
Legacy…
Why did Tony implode?
AND why does the top athlete cheat on their significant other?
AND why does the politician use their power for bad things?
AND why does the news anchor molest their employees?
AND why does the hedge fund manager deploy a ponzi scheme?
I am by no means a therapist, social worker, or a doctor, but I do study why people do what they do and here’s what I have seen…
“Self-sabotage is when someone realizes that they are not worthy of the outcome they are experiencing so they do everything possible to ground their success into the misery they feel worthy of.” - Jared Yellin
There Is A Pandemic And It’s Called Personal Implosion By Means Of Lacking Worth
I am not here to debate COVID, but I am here to say that there is a much more significant pandemic at play called…
I HATE MYSELF
I LOATHE WHO I AM
I AM NOT WORTHY OF HAPPINESS
Self-doubt is freakin crippling…
Self-hatred is freaking painful…
Self-unknown is freaking scary…
Just because someone appears to have it all does not mean that they have it all where it counts…
Their body, mind, and spirit!
And my hope and desire is that this article helps you, someone who might be suffering, see what the world sees when they look at you.
It’s Your Time To SEE...
I believe that self-sabotage is derived from someone convincing the person who is imploding that they were not good enough…
As a result…
They feel unworthy of
Success…
Love…
Health…
Happiness…
Kids…
Vacations…
Etc.
They become BLIND!
They don’t see who they really are…
They see the voice of someone other than themselves…
They don’t see their truth…
They only see the opinion of someone who attempted to bring them down and won…
They don’t see their gifts…
They only see the weaknesses that don’t even exist, but they were convinced that they do…
Part of me feels extreme pain for people who self-sabotage and part of me wants to slap them across the face and tell them…
SHAME on you!
Your sabotage is selfish - do the work!
Your sabotage is hurting your loved ones - find a solution!
Your sabotage is leading to sabotaging others - STOP!
And this tug of war is what I believe everyone experiences when they are with or near or exposed to a saboteur.
You see someone who has it all from the skills, looks, work ethic, success, family but yet…
They are BLIND!
And now for the solution…
HELP THEM SEE AGAIN!
OR
HELP YOURSELF SEE AGAIN!
The key is that people who are about to implode or already have must SEE their gifts more times than they have SEEN their voids.
This is a tough battle because most saboteurs have invested years of their life hating themselves, but there is a solution - you need to water down your hate with LOVE!
Like I said before, I am not a therapist or social worker or any professional that can give any advice to someone who is suffering, but what I do know is how to make people make change…
And I am certain this works…
You just need to help people see what they don’t see OR you need to start to see what everyone else sees.
NO, this is NOT easy, but it’s significantly easier than self-sabotaging and losing it all.
I am here always…
I see you…
I hear you…
What you say matters...
Live with Intention,
