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You Can't Pick and Choose Gratitude


"Every life event is an opportunity even when it's disguised as painful, scary, overwhelming, and riddled with stress. But, you can't pick and choose where you deploy gratitude because the highs of all highs and the lows of all lows are the reason you are who you are and as a result, gratitude must be omnipresent in an actionable way."

- Jared Yellin


To say that people's ability to experience and live in gratitude was tested in 2020 would be an understatement.


Who would have thought that when New Year’s Resolutions were declared at 12am on January 1, 2020 that this year would evolve the way it has?


Who would have thought that March of 2020 would become a time period that every living human will never forget as the world was shut down?


Who would have thought there would be natural disasters that wipe out people's lives and kill many in the process?


Who would have thought that an election would divide the country to the degree that it has?

Who would have thought that many FREEDOMS would be at the precipice of being taken away from people?


Who would have thought…

Who would have thought…

Who would have thought…


What’s interesting about these questions is that they only scratch the surface…


I am POSITIVE that you probably have 6-10-50 more questions like this about 2020…


I know I do…


Who would have thought I would have launched a company that scaled REALLY quickly and then decided after a few months to sell my equity in order to restore what matters most to me?


Who would have thought that my family and I would pick up our lives and move to Florida in less than 10 days in order to maintain our freedom?


Who would have thought that SYNDUIT would lose many $100,000’s by offering free services to small businesses in need or delaying annual payments due to the lockdown only to have our biggest financial year yet?


Who would have thought that CILA Labs would emerge during such a time of uncertainty and launch 20+ tech companies, complete a fundraising round with UNREAL investors, build a team of the top talent in India and the US and so many other milestone wins?


Who would have thought I would publish a book, podcast, online publication with the desire to teach people how to become HaveItAllPreneurs by bringing radical transparency in the tech space to help transform ideas to reality?


Who would have thought…

Who would have thought…

Who would have thought…


This has been a year of loss for many…

This has been a year of uncertainty for all…

This has been a year of opportunity like none other…


My heart throbs for anyone who lost a loved one - I am deeply saddened and sorry for the pain you experienced and/or are still experiencing.


I am also sorry if you have been furloughed and/or are experiencing financial pressures and/or lost your job and there is nothing in sight.


I am also sorry if the election is consuming every thought that enters your mind because of the insanity with the media and the propaganda which must be stopped.


And yet…


I am excited for you…


Yes, I am excited for you because this is the year of the following…


  • Opportunity

  • Accelerated Breakthrough

  • Innovation

  • Empathy

  • Commitment

  • Perseverance

  • Truth


For these reasons alone, there is so much to be grateful for this year…


Which might just be the most important lesson of your life…!


Default To Happening For Me Mentality!


I believe that by default most people gravitate towards lack…

I believe that by default most people align with doubt…

I believe that by default most people reside in negativity…


And because of this - they pick and choose where and what they are grateful for.


The problem with picking and choosing what experiences your gratitude is that the greatest life lessons you have confronted are almost always the ones that brought the most pain, suffering, anger, resentment, etc. which need the most actionable gratitude, because without these difficult milestones in your life you would not be the same person you are today AND you are EXACTLY who you should and need to be!


  • Rape

  • Divorce

  • Death

  • Bankruptcy

  • Abuse

  • Etc


How could you even imagine being grateful for such trauma but yet, how does it serve you to remain the victim?!?!


Please answer this question…


How does it serve you to remain the victim?


Is there a chance that your divorce, rape, death of a loved one, bankruptcy, abuse, etc. was the single greatest opportunity of your life disguised as extreme pain?


Did this experience turn into a mission to be, do, and have more?


Find your gratitude in the deepest of pain and then take seismic action upon it is the single greatest sustained motivation you can ever find.


It becomes a mission…

It becomes a calling…

It becomes YOU!


Saying you are grateful and BEING grateful are two completely different things.


This is as extreme as being a changeTALKER versus a changeMAKER.


The changeTALKER has made no difference in the world whereas the changeMAKER has made all the difference in the world.


The same holds true for SAYING you are grateful which does not actually produce gratitude versus BEING grateful which fills the gratitude bucket in each meaningful area of your life.


BEING grateful looks like the following…

  • Looking back at the pain from your past and seeing what it helped you become.

  • Talking massive action towards what you ultimately desire instead of remaining stuck.

  • Locating the silver lining in even the most disturbing experiences.

  • Acknowledging how far you have come even if you have yet to arrive at your destination.

  • Knowing that someone you have encountered does not align with your non-negotiables, but instead of diverting to hate, you see how important it is to experience that which you don’t desire.

  • All of the wins you were able to accomplish in the face of adversity.


And many many other things too.


But it’s not about shifting your focus, or your psychology, or chanting to make yourself smile.


It’s about using GRATITUDE as an action plan…

It’s about LOVING the fact that you were able to experience adversity…

It’s about GETTING EXCITED when a door closes…

It’s about JUMPING UP AND DOWN when faced with a lawsuit because you know you will be stronger as you defend your TRUTH!


Listen, you can call me crazy!

You can say you adamantly disagree…

You can even get angry that I am spinning the most difficult year in human history….


But here’s what I know is true for me…


2020 is the year that I am hands down the most grateful for…


  • My CODE has never been more clearly programmed.

  • My Non-Negotiables have never been more intact.

  • My wife and kids have never been more connected with me.

  • We moved to defend our freedom.

  • I launched a company that I am positive will change the world.

  • SYNDUIT is having its most epic year yet.

  • Books, podcasts, online publications, etc.

  • And my list goes on and on and on…


AND…


COVID happened…

LOCKDOWNS happened…

RIDICULOUS ELECTION happened…

MEDIA IS OUT OF CONTROL happened…


And many many many other things happened too…


But I am deeply grateful for the opportunity to flex my freakin biceps and dominate this year and I am grateful that you have the opportunity to experience actionable gratitude, which looks like DOING WHATEVER YOU FREAKING WANT AND NEED AND MUST DO in the face of adversity, challenge, stress, uncertainty, and another other undesirable emotion.


Countless People Are Saying That 2020 Was The Worst Year Yet


And each of these people have chosen to be a victim of the same year that I have chosen to rise to victor, hero, leader, and legacy builder.


I am NO different than you - but I have made an actionable desire to take action on my gratitude for all that is taking place.


YES, you probably missed some of the goals you set in January.

YES, you may have gained weight because you allowed the uncertainty in the world to win.

YES, you might be struggling financially because you did not pivot your life.

YES, your business might never be the same which could be your greatest gift.


And YES…


You might hate me, berate me, challenge me, and more and I will love you and feel grateful if you do…


But I will celebrate you if you decide to default to gratitude even when the experience is disguised as pain, stress, failure, uncertainty, etc.


This is your time…


Your time to see the opportunity in everything…

Your time to do what others won't do…

Your time to take action on the gratitude that is omnipresent…


It’s your freaking time…


Go get it!


Live with Intention,


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