Your Ultimate Success
“Do you know what’s cool
Do you know what’s even cooler
Success with impact
Do you know what’s the coolest
- Jared Yellin
Success has many different variables and everyone is entitled to measure it however they see fit.
Some might default to money…
Others might default to philanthropy…
Maybe you gravitate to your family life...
Success happens to be a topic I think about very often and I have for many many years now.
You might not know this, but I am perpetually unemployable.
I attempted to work on Wall Street when I was 21-years-old and only lasted 6-months.
But this was around the time that I started to see the type of success I did NOT want…
This is a complete over-generalization but what I saw were people who had a TON of money, but that was the beginning and the end.
I declared during this short stint that I would make wayyyyy more money than any of my colleagues BUT EVEN MORE IMPORTANTLY, have a life filled with…IT ALL!
As I started going deeper into my definition, some of the areas which I began measuring to this day exert extreme intentionality around are…
Let’s talk about each for a bit and then I will share the ultimate outcome I strive for…
I’m really not very money motivated at all but I also love the luxuries that wealth offers which tie directly into my other measurements of success. My childhood was a bit of a financial roller coaster and at a young age I declared that money will never be the reason I am unable to do what I desire. This makes me extremely economically conscious as an entrepreneur because any investment of energy I put forward into an opportunity yields a financial return that justifies the effort.
YES, I’m all about mission and mission supersedes money but money must be present. And my focus and intention is always limitless scale so the effort I put into any initiative continues to produce over and over and over even after the energy exertion is completed. I know many people struggle with this form of success as they have a strained wealth relationship but I encourage you to realize that the lack of wealth is often the reason why many areas of your life are not working the way you desire.
I don’t necessarily define contribution as philanthropy although it can be. To me, contribution is making something better because of your success. It could be the life of someone else, it could be the industry you are serving, it could be the mission you are on and it could be a variety of other things as well. The key is to make your success felt and known by ensuring there is an element of contribution present.
I know many people that have the wealth element of success figured out but they have zero freedom. But what is also interesting is many people have contribution figured out as well, but they don’t prioritize their own CODE and as a result don’t experience the FREEDOM they want and desire.
There’s a wonderful woman I know who has contributed her life to a specific cause which happens to be inspiring at a deep level but she has zero freedom. Her entire life is her contribution and it’s gotten to a point where she resents her mission because it’s only making a difference for other people but not herself.
Define your FREEDOM and then make decisions and take actions that allow you to fulfill this element of success. It’s such a critical part of your life and will make your entire success evolution and process more sustainable.
This element might not be part of your definition of success but it’s part of mine because I love experiencing the unknown which is what I call adventure. This includes travel, spontaneity, and making decisions that serve our family CODE even if these decisions don’t align with societal norms.
Many people hate adventure - which is awesome - but it’s something I live for and what I hope you can recognize is that SUCCESS is defined by the beholder. This is why YOU define what SUCCESS means to YOU!
I don’t believe success is possible or sustainable without a strong level of confidence. Showing up in doubt, second-guessing yourself, or looking in the mirror and seeing lack will absolutely hold you back from what is possible.
For me, I work and am insatiably aware of my confidence and as a result - it’s always present. I know I will not have the life I desire without this element and if confidence is a point of contention for you - DIG INTO WHY!
What is preventing you from seeing what the world sees?
What is making you feel like less than you are?
And then once you uncover this limiting belief - use it as your catalyst. Maybe you don’t value confidence, but I have yet to meet anyone who has sustained success without it.
I am fanatical about clarity for myself and for those I work with because without clarity comes the potentiality of wasting time and as you will see in my final element of success - TIME MATTERS to me...deeply!
I am sure you heard the cliche - Fuzzy Targets Don’t Get Hit - but clarity in my opinion as it pertains to success is different because you MIGHT fulfill one element of success without clarity, but it will be impossible to sustain it and expand it. Because without clarity, you are unintentional with the actions you are taking.
Every action requires an intention because an action without an intention leads to a result without an achievement. Results are by chance whereas achievements are by choice.
You can ask me at any point of any day WHY I did something or said something or did not do something or did not say something and I would have a crystal clear response because I am CLEAR (aka CLARITY) on why I am doing what I am doing in every domain of life. And as always - this has nothing to do with me or my ability, rather what I encourage you to step into.
The last element is TIME and the reason why this one is BEYOND important to me is that each element - when aggregated - should give me more FREEDOM around time. And for me - time is having the ability to do whatever I want and whenever I want to do it and as often as well.
If I want to pick my kids up from school last minute - I better be able too! If I need to move to FL to remain in my CODE - I better be able too! Time for me is a non-negotiable and yet, it’s an element that I focus my intention on so that I am able to create even more of it.
I know this was heavy and I also know what I promised to share my ULTIMATE desire - so here we go!
My ULTIMATE SUCCESS desire is to be DAD first always…
Without wealth, without contribution, without freedom, without adventure, without confidence, without clarity, and without time, I would not be the DAD I am committed to.
And my elements don’t need to be yours but I encourage you to think about success and what it means to you. Don’t be influenced on your quest for clarity around this topic because the only thing that matters is that your definition drives you forward and keeps you going.
And my final point is this…
Success without transformation means opportunity was left on the field. Transformation in my opinion is the outcome of success where everyone WINS.
Strive for this outcome…
It’s where success provides you everything you desire while also enabling others to experience the benefits as well.
You got this...ROCKSTAR!
Live with Intention,