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“You’ve been misled. You’ve been lied to. You’ve been manipulated. Now it’s time you realize that the more you reside in safety, the less you get what you desire." - Jared Yellin
There are only two ways to live life…
Play it safe
OR
Play to win
I don’t see any middle ground and it’s important to understand the distinction of this decision because there is a good chance that at some point you were misled to believe there was only one path to peace, safety, and comfort.
I have never met anyone who would declare their life was filled with meaning, adventure, abundance, excitement, extremes, success, joy, love, and every other state of being WHILE deciding to play it safe.
And the irony is most people have chosen safety…
They never put themselves in a position of potential discomfort in order to experience growth…
They never gave themselves the permission to go all in on something in fear of that something not working…
They never boldly declared to themselves and to the world that enough is simply not enough and they were committed to more…
They never journeyed outside of their known in order to experience a new dimension of who they are…
They never asked the hard questions with the goal of acquainting themselves with one of the many faces in their existence…
They never accepted a challenge or fully challenged themselves because the feeling associated with the “thrust” was undesirable…
And as ironic as it might be – most people on their death bed either consciously or subconsciously wonder… WHAT IF?
WHAT IF I did not settle in my marriage…
WHAT IF I pursued my entrepreneurial dream…
WHAT IF I had another child…
WHAT IF I made that investment…
WHAT IF I went to that event…
WHAT IF I traveled to another country…
WHAT IF I took that adventure…
WHAT IF I did not follow the herd to safety…
But I get it…
Going for the WIN is scary
ORRRRRRRRR
It’s a thrill…
One of the many lessons that has served me - possible more than any other in life - is to FEEL the opposite side of my knee-jerk emotion.
When my default is overwhelming – I simulate excitement.
When my default is scary – I simulate thrilling.
When my default is risky – I simulate success.
If all we ever experience is our knee-jerk emotion, then all we will ever do is PLAY IT SAFE.
And the only reason why sooooo many people CAN play it safe is because…
SOOOO few PLAYED TO WIN!
But the people who PLAYED TO WIN are the reason why YOU can play it safe BUT
WHAT IF…
You took personal responsibility for the life you desired versus the life that you have…?
You committed to what you have always wanted versus what you experience today…?
You said no more to just enough and went all in on having more than you ever imagined…?
I promise you my goal is NOT to pump you up, but it is to empower you to play a different game…
The game is called WINNING and this is not a game where there are WINNERS and LOSERS. It’s a game that you play with yourself and if you choose to PLAY IT SAFE - you lose - and if you choose to PLAY TO WIN – you win.
And this is how I DO IT…
5 Ways To Make BIG MOVES As You Play To WIN Without Incurring UNNECESSARY RISK
1. Pivot but don’t quit.
People who play to win realize that their first step and maybe even their second, third, fourth etc. might not land, might not generate the outcome they expected or desired, might not work BUT they never quit – they simply pivot.
The reason playing to WIN might feel risky is because you have been conditioned to quit the moment the going got tough. You have been told to retreat, hide, play it safe!
And guess what…
Starting and then stopping is VERY VERY RISKY!
All of the effort you put in initially - which is by far the hardest effort - is for naught if you don’t commit to continue onward until you WIN!
So…
PIVOT when things are not working the way you desire - BUT - NEVER quit.
2. Momentum builds on momentum.
People who PLAY TO WIN also realize that momentum is a profound source that will NEVER stop and will ONLY build if and only if you commit to action.
This means…
EVEN if you are not getting the outcome you are looking for – you just keep taking action.
Record another video…
Go on another date…
Make another call…
Ask for the close…
Put forth another proposal…
Send another email…
Take another trip…
JUST don’t remain stagnant because - like I mentioned above - the hardest thing to do is BEGIN but once you begin - even if things are not working - stay in motion by taking even greater actions than you took to reach that initial point because…
MOMENTUM BUILDS ON MOMENTUM which in turn reduces your risk when you are PLAYING TO WIN!
3. Surround yourself with WINNERS.
People who play to WIN realize that there is only one kind of human that is worth associating with…
WINNERS!
Period and end of story.
And I am not degrading those who choose to play it say…
They are not worse…
They are not bad…
They are not unintelligent…
They are just choosing a completely different path than those choosing to WIN.
And just so this is hyper clear…
WINNING does not mean fame or fortune, but what it does mean is adventure, abundance, excitement, extremes, success, joy, love, etc.
AND WINNERS only surround themselves with WINNERS, which drastically increases their chance to win while reducing their risk.
4. Eliminate Your Plan B.
People who play to WIN also realize that distraction is the enemy of success and anything other than PLAN A - aka the IDEAL outcome - is a distraction.
People who play it SAFE are so afraid to fail that they hedge against the downside with Plan B, C, D, E…….
Any plan besides PLAN A is RISK!
This does not mean you are thick headed and continue to run into a wall, but it DOES mean that you continue to run toward your IDEAL OUTCOME and shift and shake and pivot when necessary.
But realize – and this is VERY VERY VERY important…
WINNERS only have ONE PLAN - it’s called A - because any PLAN besides for A is a distraction!
5. Just Do It.
Finally, people who PLAY IT WIN just DO IT.
They don’t perseverate…
They don’t overthink…
They don’t over analyze…
They trust their instinct, their intuition, but most importantly their skillset and they just continue to take action.
They don’t need opinions or views from others…
They don’t need to have an entire plan laid out…
They don’t need to lay a foundation…
They just DO IT.
I don’t know how else to say it other than…
People who PLAY TO WIN take immediate and consistent oversized action and my hope is that you just DO IT and begin to PLAY TO WIN.
Now What?
I want to drive home a very important point before I leave you with the next steps…
WINNING does not mean fame or fortune, but what it does mean is adventure, abundance, excitement, extremes, success, joy, love, etc.
You need to answer these questions and there is no right or wrong – there is only right for you or wrong for you…
Do you want more adventure?
Do you want more abundance?
Do you want more excitement?
Do you want more extremes?
Do you want more success?
Do you want more joy?
Do you want more love?
If the answer is a resounding YES YES YES YES YES YES YES, then there is only one thing to do right now…
COMMIT to PLAY TO WIN!
And if you are wondering what the next step is…
Pick an area in your life where you have played it safe - declare you are now ready to WIN - and then follow the 5 ways from above.
This article is ME reverse engineering ME.
I only PLAY TO WIN.
I have never and will never PLAY IT SAFE.
I don’t look down upon those who choose safety versus winning, BUT I do only deeply associate with the people who CHOOSE TO WIN.
I hope you choose what’s best for YOU and not what you have been conditioned to believe.
And as always…
I am here for you…
TOGETHER we achieve more.
Live with Intention,
