“I would rather be unapologetically me and turn the wrong people off, than contort who I am to turn the wrong people on.”
- Jared Yellin
I have always been confused by people who suppress their true identity to be accepted…
WHY…
WHY do you want people who are philosophically misaligned to accept you?
WHY do you want people who don’t share your values to integrate you?
WHY do you want people who stand for what you stand against to include you?
The lack of self-worth that exists is plague…
I can’t even imagine NOT being ME in order to have people I don’t respect...respect me!
Listen - I respect the opinions of others, but it does not mean I agree nor will I change who I am to appease anyone.
But why do you feel the need…
To be accepted…
To be integrated…
To be included…
To be invited…
To be respected…
To be anything other than YOU!
I Am Sick And Tired Of BandWagon People
BandWagon people are sheep…
They just follow the herd…
They contort their identity to fit in…
They are impressionable to a fault…
Listen…
I don’t care if you wear a mask or don't…
I don’t care if you get vaccinated or not…
I don’t care if you love my ideas or hate them…
I don’t care if you align with my parenting decisions or disagree…
I deeply don’t care what anyone thinks about my unapologetic self and as a result - I feel whole, I feel complete, I feel at peace.
When you gain your self-worth by fitting in - what happens VERY quickly is you can’t find where you fit.
There is an internal struggle which most ignore, but no one truly can, because contradiction is a VERY loud and bold and scary feeling.
I remember when I decided to graduate college early to start a company…
EVERYONE adamantly opposed this decision…
And guess what…
I did not care because I am always unapologetically me…
If I turn you ON - AMAZING
If I turn you OFF - AMAZING
Because all that matters is that I turn myself ON because I am TRUE to me!
But this article is not about me…
It’s about YOU and your confused ways…
People are confused spiritually, politically, financially, with their health, their fear, their aspirations, their desires…
And the reason for the confusion is that you care too much what everyone thinks and you care too little about what the only person that matters thinks...YOU!
Find Your Tribe But Until Then Be WHOLE As A Loner
When I was in college, I realized that my popularity added zero value to my life because it was predicated on me going to bars, drinking, partying, and doing things that did not align with who I was or what I wanted…
I radically made a change…
I fell in love with being ALONE…
With my thoughts…
With my words…
With my poetry and my writing…
With my vision…
Being alone felt WHOLE and allowed me to find ME!
I would wake up on the weekends when people were going to sleep to train my business school professors…
I would publish poetry every single day infused with my emotional drivers and vision…
I would train my body for 3 hours daily and consume food that fueled me…
I would immerse myself in philosophy and personal development to gain a better understanding of me…
And none of this was “normal” but it felt sooooo RIGHT!
AND AND AND it led me to a like-minded TRIBE.
People who believed in what I believe in…
People who shared common values…
People who had big aspirations for their lives…
People who were unapologetically themselves like I was myself…
You Can’t Lead And Care What Everyone Thinks
We are in a world right now that NEEDS the REAL YOU more than EVER before…
COVID
Civil War
Political Riots
Fake News
The list goes on and on and on…
We need LEADERS to emerge…
We need FOLLOWERS to dissipate…
We need EVERYONE to become unapologetically themselves…
STOP trying to fit in…
STOP begging to be integrated…
STOP yearning to be accepted…
START being YOU!
And LEAD - LEAD - LEAD yourself...
Live with Intention,
