“The moment you believe you need someone or something other than yourself to get what you desire is the moment you lose all of your power.” - Jared Yellin

Who misled you to believe that you are NOT enough?

Who manipulated you by saying you needed something or someone outside of yourself?

Who betrayed you when they made your ideal outcome seem far-fetched?

But even more importantly…

Why did these people matter?

WHY does their opinion override your belief?

WHY does their doubt consume your certainty?

WHY does their story matter more than yours?

One of my earliest lessons was dependency = death.

I am not sure why this became abundantly clear for me at such a young age, but very very early on I realized I HAVE everything I need to create the life I desire.

I have the skills to create the resources.

I have the intellect to become resourceful.

I have the drive to catalyze my momentum.

I have the commitment to achieve whatever I want.

And guess what…

YOU DO TOO!

But

…most people don’t believe in themselves!

…most people are always looking outward for support!

…most people feel they NEED someone or something to get what they want!

AND

…most people will never have the life of their dreams because they are BLIND to this very very very real reality…

The ONLY thing you EVER need…

IS…

YOURSELF

And not just any version of yourself.

The BEST version of yourself.

I have 4 beautiful children that represent my ultimate WHY in life AND…

I will work diligently to ensure they have no dependencies on me or anyone or anything. I am committed to helping them realize they have what they need to succeed – period and end of story.

But the key ingredient to their success is…

The 5 Ways To Catapult Your Self-Worth By Looking Inward

Way 1: Accept Yourself

I am about to set you free…

You are human AND you are meant to fall, trip, mess up, stumble, humiliate yourself, negatively impact people, get hurt, etc.

AND

Regardless of how many times this has happened during your very very precious life…

I invite you to do something right now..

ACCEPT YOURSELF!

Just accept who you are and every flaw, blemish, perceived failure, mistake, etc.

BECAUSE the more you harp on “what did not work”, the less you are able to focus on the endless opportunities that stand before you TODAY that will radically transform every aspect of your life.

Let me repeat this…

You have transformative opportunities that are trying to get your attention daily but you are so consumed with the opinion of someone who does not matter, or the pimple on your nose, or the C- you got on an exam 30 years ago, or any other insignificant life experience that you have chosen to make significant that you are blind to what’s possible.

So…

Commit right now…

ACCEPT yourself and realize – you don’t need anyone or anything to complete this step.

Way 2: You Will Win or You Will Learn

I’ve always believed that my self-worth is predicated on leaving nothing on the field.

This means I am fearless when it comes to trying new things or accepting difficult challenges because the worst case scenario is…I will learn.

AND the best case scenario is…I will win.

This seems like a WIN-WIN outcome but yet – so few people give themselves the permission to TRY.

Which is why so many people live a life of wonder…

I wonder what would have happened if I had approached my high school crush…

I wonder what would have happened if I had quit the dead end job…

I wonder what would have happened if I said no to getting engaged to the wrong person…

I wonder what would have happened if I threw away all processed foods in my house…

When you realize there is no such thing as losing and the only outcome is you LEARN or you WIN, then you give yourself the leeway to TRY.

And TRYING is the KEY that unlocks a side of your self-worth that has probably been lying dormant.

Way 3: Every Action Requires An Intention

I find people who don’t have clarity of what they want ALSO don’t have a high self worth whereas the contrary is overwhelmingly true.

When you KNOW where you are going – you have an unwavering level of capacity for your self worth.

It becomes UNDENIABLE.

People might not even fully understand what you are committed to doing, but they will stand with you because your conviction is palpable AND what accelerates your ability to reach this extraordinary milestone is one word…

INTENTION!

Every action requires an intention because an action without an intention will lead to a result without an achievement – results are by chance whereas achievements are by choice.

STOP going through the motions and instead define, label, and set an intention for each commitment you make.

If you are committing to the gym – what’s your INTENTION?

If you are committing to a person – what’s your INTENTION?

If you are committing to a career path – what’s your INTENTION?

If you don’t CLEARLY define your intention, your outcome will be haphazard at best, which in turn impacts your self-worth and ultimately holds you back from the life you desire at the deepest level.

SOOOOOO

Just get clear on the INTENTION attached to EVERY action and witness how much you grow, prosper, and love yourself for it.

Way 4: Become Your Greatest Critic AND Your Greatest Cheerleader

Sweeping anything under the carpet that you don’t want to face is a surefire way to NOT have positive self worth.

This holds true for the areas of your life which need improvement AND for the areas of your life that need celebration.

MOST people are too emotionally and spiritually depleted to give themselves critiques on where they can improve across all important domains of life.

As a result – these people don’t grow, don’t prosper, and don’t love themselves.

They lack energy…

They lack drive…

They lack commitment…

YES, it’s easier to take haphazard actions but it’s WAYYYY harder when you find out that these actions did NOT improve your life - at all - whereas if you took an extra few seconds to a minute to get clear on the driving force behind your action, you will set an intention, which might be the missing piece to ensuring your reality is a living dream…

Way 5: Live A Full Life

My mentor passed away a few months ago and as hard as this was to experience (since he was so young) the one thing that gave me solace and peace is that he lived such a full life!

He immersed himself with his family…

He saw the world…

He changed countless lives…

He experimented daily…

He adventured regularly…

He achieved monumental levels of success…

He gave with no expectation of return…

AND he oozed self worth!

No one could convince him otherwise and I believe he followed all of these strategies but the one where he is the poster example for all of us is that he LIVED A FULL LIFE.

And this is what I encourage you to do too…

It’s not so that you cross every time off your bucket list - rather - it’s because when you commit to living a full life your self-worth becomes UNDENIABLE!

And the beauty of this way is it’s simple…

You just need to CHOOSE to live, hold nothing back, and go for your all!

Now What?

Answer this question…

WHAT DO YOU NEED to have…

the life of your dreams?the relationship of your fantasies?the career of all-time?the kids you envisioned?

the friends you desired?

If your answer is anything other than THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF then you just wasted your time reading this article.

The ONLY thing you EVER need…

And I am going to repeat this over and over again to ensure it integrates into every part of your essence, being, and soul…

IS…

YOURSELF

And not just any version of yourself.

The BEST version of yourself.

The one who wakes up with immediate energy…

The one who consumes nutrient rich food and exercises everyday…

The one who loves themselves enough to not allow anyone to walk over them…

The one who is fully committed to being fully committed…

The one who leaves nothing on the field…

The one who believes in their abilities…

The one who enters the room with humble swagger…

The one who knows nothing other than having it all…

THIS is the best version of you AND it’s the only thing you NEED to achieve whatever it is you desire.

BECAUSE…

The moment you believe you need someone or something other than yourself to get what you desire is the moment you lose all of your power.

I can’t begin to explain how many people I meet who are convinced that the only way they can accomplish their optimal outcome is if someone or something miraculously shows up and shows them the way.

This belief is not only flawed but it’s GUARANTEED to inhibit you from making your dream a reality.

Let me drive this point home just in case you are confused…

The ONLY thing you EVER need…

IS…

YOURSELF

And not just any version of yourself.

The BEST version of yourself.

So to answer the NOW WHAT one more time…

Make the choice…

YOU are more than enough AND you are not enough yet so continue to push yourself beyond the limits of possibility and realize – you already have what you need to succeed in life.

I believe in you - deeply and always - let’s do this.

TOGETHER!

Live with Intention,